Enneagram Personality Type


Hello blog surfers. Setelah sekian lama akhirnya saya mendapatkan artikel menarik yang saya dapat dari http://webhome.idirect.com/~kehamilt/ yang membahas mengenai enneagram 9 tipe kepribadian. Saya sudah mencoba dan ternyata sangat akurat sekali. Dan sekadar informasi saja, saya adalah tipe yang ke-5.

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One: The Perfect Idealist/The Perfectionist

Ones are motivated by the need to live their lives the right way, including improving themselves and the world around them.

Ones at their BEST are
Ones at their WORST are
ethical
judgmental
reliable
inflexible
productive
dogmatic
wise
obsessive-compulsive
idealistic
critical of others
fair
overly serious
honest
controlling
orderly
anxious
self-disciplined
jealous

How to get along with a ONE

  • Take your share of the responsibility so One doesn’t end up with all the work
  • Acknowledge their achievements
  • Reassure them that they are fine the way they are
  • Be fair and considerate like they are
  • Apologize if you have been unthoughtful
  • encourage them to lighten up and to laugh at themselves

What’s good about being a One

  • self-discipline enables them to accomplish a great deal
  • they work hard to make the world a better place
  • they have high standards and ethics and don’t compromise
  • they are reasonable, responsible and dedicated
  • they can put facts together, come to good understandings with wise decisions
  • they can be the best they can b and bring out the best in others

What’s difficult about being a ONE

  • they can be disappointed in themselves or others when expectations are not met
  • they can feel burdened by too much responsibility
  • they may feel unappreciated
  • they can get upset because others are not trying as hard as they are
  • they can obsess about what they did or should do
  • they can take things too seriously and become tense and anxious

Ones as Children

  • criticize themselves in anticipation of criticism from others
  • refrain from doing things they think might not come out perfect
  • focus on living up to the expectations of their parents and teachers
  • are very responsible and may assume the role of parent
  • hold back negative emotions (good children aren’t angry)

Ones as Parents

  • teach their children responsibility and strong moral values
  • are consistent and fair
  • discipline firmly

Two : The Nurturing Helper

Twos are motivated by the need to be loved and valued and to express their positive feelings toward others.

Twos at their BEST are
Twos at their WORST are
loving
martyrlike
caring
indirect
adaptable
manipulative
insightful
possessive
generous
hysterical
enthusiastic
overly accommodating
tuned in to how others feel
overly demonstrative

How to get along with a Two

  • Tell them you appreciate them. Be specific
  • Share fun times with them
  • Take an interest in their problems, though they will focus on yours
  • Let them know they are important to you
  • Be gentle if you are going to criticize

What’s good about being a Two

  • they relate to others easily and make friends
  • they know what people need and can make their lives better
  • they are generous, caring and warm
  • they are reasonable, responsible and dedicated
  • they are sensitive to and perceptive of others feelings
  • they are enthusiastic and fun-loving and have a good sense of humour

What’s difficult about being a TWO

  • they can’t say no
  • they may have low self-esteem
  • they may feel drained from overdoing for others
  • not doing things they like for fear of being selfish
  • they can be too self-critical for not being as ;loving as they should
  • they can work so hard to be tactful and considerate and suppress their own feelings
  • they can be upset because others can’t tune in to them as well as they tune in to others

Twos as Children

  • are very sensitive to disapproval and criticism
  • try hard to please parents by being helpful and understanding
  • are popular or try to be popular with other children
  • are outwardly compliant
  • act coy, precocious or dramatic to get attention
  • are clowns or jokers if extroverted or quiet and shy if introverted

Twos as Parents

  • are good listeners, love children and are warm and encouraging
  • are often playful
  • always wonder if they are doing it right, giving enough
  • can be fiercely protective

Three : The Motivating Star/The Achiever

Threes are motivated by the need to be productive, achieve success and avoid failure

Threes at their BEST are
Threes at their WORST are
optimistic
deceptive
confident
narcissistic
industrious
pretentious
efficient
vain
self-propelled
superficial
energetic
vindictive
practical
overly competitive

How to get along with a Three

  • Leave them alone when they are doing their work
  • Give them honest but not unduly critical feedback
  • Help them keep the environment harmonious and peaceful
  • Don’t burden them with negative emotions
  • Tell them you like being around them
  • Tell them when you are proud of their accomplishments

What’s good about being a Three

  • they are optimistic, friendly and upbeat
  • they provide well for their family
  • they recover quickly from setbacks and charge ahead to the next challenge
  • they stay informed
  • they are competent and able to get things to work efficiently
  • they can motivate people

What’s difficult about being a Three

  • they may have to put up with incompetence
  • they fear not being-or not being seen as successful
  • they compare themselves to people who do things better
  • they may struggle to hang on to success
  • they put on a facade in order to impress people
  • they can always be on and find it exhausting

Threes as Children

  • work hard to get appreciation for accomplishments
  • are well liked by children and adults
  • are among the most capable and responsible children in their class
  • are active in clubs, school government or are busy working on their own projects

Threes as Parents

  • are consistent, dependable and loyal
  • struggle between wanting to spend time with their children and wanting to get more work done
  • expect their children to be responsible and organized

Four : The Sensitive Artist/The Romantic

Fours are motivated by the need to experience their feelings and to be understood, to search for the meaning of life and to avoid being ordinary

Fours at their BEST are
Fours at their WORST are
warm
depressed
compassionate
self-conscious
introspective
guilt-ridden
expressive
moralistic
creative
withdrawn
intuitive
stubborn
supportive
moody
refined
self-absorbed

How to get along with a Four

  • give them plenty of compliments
  • be a supportive friend. Help them learn to love and value themselves
  • respect them for their special gift of vision and intuition
  • sometimes they don’t like to be cheered up but sometimes they like to have someone lighten them up
  • don’t tell them they are too sensitive or are overreacting

What’s good about being a Four

  • they are are able to find meaning in life and to experience feelings at a deep level
  • they can establish warm connections with people
  • they admire the noble, truthful and beautiful in life
  • they are creative, intuitive and have a sense of humour
  • they are unique and can see the unique in others
  • they are aesthetic and can pick up on the feelings of those around them

What’s difficult about being a Four

  • they may experience dark moods of emptiness and despair
  • they have feelings of self-hatred and shame and feel they don’t deserve to be loved
  • they feel guilty when they disappoint people
  • they feel hurt or attacked when someone misunderstands them
  • they expect too much from themselves and life
  • they fear abandonment
  • they obsess over resentments
  • they long for what they don’t have

Fours as Children

  • have active imaginations; play creatively alone or organize playmates in original games
  • are very sensitive
  • feel that they don’t fit in and believe they are missing something that others have
  • attach themselves to idealized teachers, heroes, artists
  • become authoritarian or rebellious when criticized or not understood
  • feel lonely abandoned (perhaps as the result of parent’s death or divorce)

Fours as Parents

  • help their children become who they really are; help the get in touch with their feelings
  • support creativity and originality
  • are sometimes overly critical and overly protective
  • are usually very good with children if not too self-absorbed

Five : The Observant Thinker

Fives are motivated by the need to know and understand everything, to be self-sufficient and to avoid looking foolish

Fives at their BEST are
Fives at their WORST are
analytical
intellectually arrogant
persevering
stingy
sensitive
stubborn
wise
distant
objective
critical of others
perceptive
unassertive
self-contained
negative

How to get along with a Five

  • Be independent not clingy
  • Speak in a straightforward and brief manner
  • Give them time to process feelings and thoughts
  • If they are being aloof, distant or arrogant they may be feeling uncomfortable
  • Make them feel welcome, but not too intensely or they may doubt your sincerity
  • Don’t come on like a bulldozer
  • Help them avoid their pet peeves: Big parties, other’s loud music, overdone emotions, intrusions on their privacy

What’s good about being a Five

  • they can stand back and observe life objectively
  • they can come to a thorough understanding perceiving causes and effects
  • they have a sense of integrity, do what is right and are not influenced by social pressure
  • they are not caught up in material possessions and status
  • they are calm in a crisis

What’s difficult about being a Five

  • they feel frustrated by putting knowledge into the world slowly
  • they feel bad when acting like a know-it-all
  • they don’t like to be pressured to be with people they don’t like
  • they resent others with better social skills but less intelligence do better professionally
  • they have trouble putting thoughts succinctly

Fives as Children

  • spend time alone reading or making collections
  • have a few special friends rather than many
  • are very bright and curious and do well in school
  • have independent minds and often question parents and teachers
  • watch events from a detached point of view, gathering information
  • assume a poker face in order not to look afraid
  • feel intruded upon and controlled and/or ignored and neglected

Fives as Parents

  • are often kind, perceptive and devoted
  • are sometimes authoritarian and demanding
  • may expect more intellectual achievement than is developmentally appropriate
  • may be intolerant of children expressing strong emotions

Six : The Wary Loyalist/The Questioner

Sixes are motivated by the need for security.

Sixes at their BEST are
Sixes at their WORST are
loyal
hypervigilant
likable
controlling
caring
unpredictable
warm
judgmental
compassionate
paranoid
witty
defensive
practical
rigid
helpful
self-defeating
responsible
testy

How to get along with a Six

  • Be direct and clear
  • Listen to them carefully
  • Don’t judge them for their anxiety
  • Work things through with them
  • Reassure them that everything is OK between you two
  • Laugh and make jokes with them
  • Gently push them to experience new things
  • Try not to overreact to their overreacting

What’s good about being a Six

  • they are committed and faithful to family and friends
  • they are responsible and hardworking
  • they are compassionate to others
  • they have intellect and wit
  • they are non conformists confronting danger bravely
  • they are direct and assertive

What’s difficult about being a Six

  • they may have a constant push and pull to make up their minds
  • they procrastinate because of fear of failure, have little confidence
  • they fear abandonment and being taken advantage of
  • they exhaust themselves by worrying and scanning for danger
  • they are too critical of themselves, phobic-think the worst is yet to come

Sixes as Children

  • are anxious and hypervigilant
  • are friendly, likable and dependable and/or stubborn, bossy and sarcastic
  • form a team of us against them with a best friend or parent
  • look to groups or authorities to protect them/or question authority and rebel
  • are neglected or abused from alcoholic families or take on the fearfulness of an overly anxious parent

Sixes as Parents

  • are often loving, nurturing and have strong sense of duty
  • are sometimes reluctant to give their children independence
  • worry more than most that their children will get hurt
  • sometimes have trouble saying no or setting boundaries

Seven : The Adventurer/The Enthusiastic Generalist

Sevens are motivated by the need to be happy and plan enjoyable activities to contibute to the world and to avoid suffering and pain

Sevens at their BEST are
Sevens at their WORST are
fun-loving
narcissistic
spontaneous
impulsive
imaginative
unfocussed
productive
rebellious
enthusiastic
undisciplined
quick
possessive
confident
manic
charming
self-destructive
curious
restless

How to get along with a Seven

  • give companionship, affection and freedom
  • engage them in stimulating conversation and laughter
  • appreciate their grand visions and listen to their stories
  • don’t try to change them; accept them as they are
  • don’t tell them what to do
  • be responsible for yourself; they dislike clingy needy people

What’s good about being a Seven

  • they are are optimistic and don’t let life get them down
  • they are spontaneous and free-spirited
  • they are outspoken and outrageous; it’s part of the fun
  • they are generous and try to make the world a better place
  • they have the courage to take risks to seek adventure
  • they have varied interests and abilities

What’s difficult about being a Seven

  • they don’t have enough time to get everything done
  • they may not complete everything they start
  • they have difficulty committing to one career
  • they tend to be ungrounded; getting lost in plans or fantasy
  • they can feel confined in a one-to-one relationship
  • they seem to have no “off” switch

Sevens as Children

  • drum up excitement
  • are action oriented and adventurous
  • prefer being with others
  • finesse their way around adults
  • dream of the freedom they will have as adults

Sevens as Parents

  • are often enthusiastic and generous
  • want their children to be exposed to adventures
  • may be too busy with their own activities to be attentive

Eight : The Assertive Leader

Eights are motivated by the need to be self-reliant and strong and to avoid feeling weak or dependent

Eights at their BEST are
Eights at their WORST are
direct
controlling
authoritative
rebellious
loyal
insensitive
energetic
domineering
earthy
self-centred
protective
skeptical
self-confident
aggressive

How to get along with an Eight

  • stand up for yourself and them
  • be confident, strong and direct
  • don’t gossip about hem or betray their trust
  • be vulnerable and share your feelings; see their tender side
  • give them space to be alone
  • acknowledge their contributions
  • they often speak assertively; don’t assume it’s a personal attack
  • ignore their screaming, cursing or stomping

What’s good about being an Eight

  • they are are independent and self-reliant
  • they take charge and face challenge head on
  • they are courageous, straightforward and honest
  • they get all the enjoyment they can out of life
  • they support empower and protect those close to them
  • they uphold causes

What’s difficult about being an Eight

  • they overwhelm people with bluntness
  • they are restless and impatient with other’s incompetence
  • they are disappointed when they stick their neck out for others and get no appreciation
  • they never forget injuries or injustices
  • they expect too much of themselves
  • they get high blood pressure when people don’t obey rules or when thing don’t go right

Eights as Children

  • are sometimes loners
  • are independent, have an inner strength and fighting spirit
  • seize control so they won’t be controlled
  • figure out others weaknesses
  • attack verbally or physically when provoked
  • take charge in the family because they perceive themselves as the strongest or grow up in difficult or abusive surroundings

Eights as Parents

  • are often loyal, caring, involved, devoted and overprotective
  • can be demanding , controlling and rigid

Nine : The Easygoing Peacemaker

Nines are motivated by the need to keep the peace, to merge with others and to avoid conflict

Nines at their BEST are
Nines at their WORST are
pleasant
spaced-out
peaceful
forgetful
generous
stubborn
patient
obsessive
receptive
apathetic
diplomatic
passive-aggressive
open-minded
judgmental
empathic
unassertive

How to get along with a Nine

  • don’t expect things or put pressure if you want something
  • they like to listen and be of service, but don’t take advantage
  • listen while they meander; give them time; it’s OK to nudge them
  • ask them questions to help them clarify
  • flatter them; show them affection
  • they like a good discussion but not a confrontation
  • laugh with them and share their enjoyment of life

What’s good about being a Nine

  • they are accepting and nonjudgmental
  • they care about and are concerned for others
  • they can relax and have a good time; they are easy to be around
  • they can see all sides and are good mediators
  • they are aware of sensations and the here and now
  • they can go with the flow

What’s difficult about being a Nine

  • they don’t like being judged or misunderstand for being indecisive
  • they are self-critical for lacking discipline and initiative
  • they are too sensitive to criticism; taking everything personally
  • they can be confused about what they want
  • they care too much about what others think
  • they fear not being taken seriously

Nines as Children

  • feel ignored and that their wants, opinions, and feelings are unimportant
  • tune out a lot, especially when others argue
  • are “good” children: deny anger or keep it to themselves

Fours as Parents

  • are sometimes overly permissive or nondirective
  • are supportive, kind and warm

Source: Adapted from Riso, Don Richard with Russ Hudson, Personality Types:Using the Enneagram for Self Discovery,1996. Houghton Mifflin and Baron, Renee and Elizabeth Wagele, The Enneagram Made Easy, 1994, Harper Collins

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